The Best Places to Take A Girl On a Date

best places to take a girl on a date

So, you finally gathered enough courage to approach that cute girl, had a nice chat, and got her phone number! Great!

Maybe you called her to ask her out on a date, or maybe you already agreed to meet up again for a date. Either way, you feel elated! You feel great about the prospect of going on a date with that cute girl. You’re going to have such a great time with her.

You’re going to show her a good time by taking her to… where?

A lot of people like to keep their dates simple by meeting in a coffee shop.

Some people would rather meet at a bar to loosen up and connect over a few drinks. Alcohol is, after all, nature’s social lubricant.

Many people like to go for a simple walk in the park.

Others prefer having a classic dinner-and-a-movie date. Some of these people try to avoid the movie and just have dinner because they feel it’s too cliche and it doesn’t give them enough of an opportunity to talk.

Speaking of food, some people make their dates fun and tasty by cooking dinner together.

More creative and interesting folks – like motivational speaker Sean Stephenson – recommend less orthodox dates like going to IKEA and role playing with all of the rooms and furniture.

There are dozens upon dozens of things you can do on a date, where you can go, etc. Where’s the best place to go?


But wait, there’s more!

All in the same day.

The best thing you can do on a date is to go to as many different places as you can with a girl.

Why? Well, something magical happens when you spend your date in several places as opposed to one place. Because you create a greater number of experiences and memories together when you go to several different physical locations, the two of you will feel like you’ve spent more time together than you actually have.

Pickup artists call this effect a “time distortion,” and it’s a neat little psychological phenomenon that you can take advantage of on every single date you go on from here on out.

It will help the two of you feel more connected, familiar, and – if you know what you’re doing – attracted to each other.

Ideally, I like to start my dates in the late afternoon at a coffee shop somewhere close to where I live. Caffeine makes your brain release dopamine, which is a feel-good neurotransmitter associated with feelings of love. It should put both me and the girl in a good mood for the rest of the date.

If I’m looking to get her back to my place at the end of the date, I bring her to my place right after the coffee shop. I might have left my watch in my room as an excuse to bring her in for just a moment. I’ll grab my watch as she either sits for a minute or stands at the doorway, then we’ll leave to go to the next place.

Why bring her back to my place for just a minute so early on? This will prime her to be more comfortable with the idea of going over to your place at the end of the night since your place isn’t unknown territory anymore.

A lot of people try to avoid having a date in a movie theater, but follow this strategy of doing several things during one date. If you do, seeing a movie isn’t such a bad idea anymore.

So, draw up a rough plan of things you can do and places you can go for dates in the town or city that you live in. Try everything! You’ll find that your dates will be a lot more fun this way.


Chief, an Asian-American PUA, began his journey of transformation through the teachings of the underground seduction community of pickup artists in 2003. He's hosted workshops in both New Orleans and Northern California, helped lead a "PUA Lair" in New Orleans, and is a moderator on, one of the most popular seduction-related internet forums in existence. His views on seduction and dating have been largely influenced by his experience as a musical performer, American culture, and Zen Buddhism. He runs a blog at
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